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He promises to Never do it again and he will be more open to communicate potential issues to avoid anything similar to this.
Everything was working out so I was led to believe that this was the ideal relationship, until October 28, 2009. But obviously in this scenario, all 3 promises were out of the window.
This was the day the fate card was drawn and I found a notepad file in his laptop documenting all sms conversations from April 2009 - May 2009 which shows progressive events that led to sleeping together April 24, 2009 (we were not officially a couple yet, but we agreed to be exclusively dating each other). Not to date/sleep with anyone else since we are working things out. Since I was able to state strong facts and told him I can provide that documentation (he was not aware that "hidden files" from Windows cannot remain hidden) he admitted that yes, it all happened while we were dating, and it was all in the past so it was not something he needed to bring up anymore since the affair was all over, and not something to dwell on.
I know this time frame was before our being formally a couple when we hit June 2009, but the fact remains that he two-timed me when he promised to: 1. He claims that he gave in to his weakness in the heat of that moment, knowing that we are still not an official couple - that's what was giving him uncertainty during those months, when he felt lost since I was still wrapping up.
I cannot safely say he is a "serial cheater" because I have not known him very long to pass that kind of judgement. But obviously in this scenario, all 3 promises were out of the window.
He comes from a decent family and I like them, and yes they like me too. Not to date/sleep with anyone else since we are working things out. I mean understand that even with he promises he gave me he was still able to cheat and even lie to my face when I asked him bluntly if something was going on between him and this friend before we became a couple is certainly an uncomfortable feeling for me.
Your opinions will be highly appreciated, I just needed to let this out, I mean I decided to confront him instead of confiding with a lot of friends and family because I felt that communication is key. Now the question is, do I forgive and forget since these chain of events happened during the dating period or should I put that into consideration and discontinue this relationship?