This type of baggage is even more of a problem when combined with bitterness and resentment.
If he's still in love with an ex but he thinks she's crazy and that she treated him terribly, you can expect to hear a lot more about this woman than you really want to.
I felt he just wasn’t that into me and I had screwed it up. I also realized quickly that this man is NOT that other asshat. He is honest, he is kind, he is real and he makes me laugh!!
But by comparing him to the douche-nozel I am doing him a major disservice.
In that case, you could end up dating a chivalric misogynist, a man who is perpetually bitter toward the same women he's always trying to save.
Trying to find a man with no baggage would be like trying to find a man with no life history. However, there's a big difference between people who know about their baggage and people who don't.
Unfortunately, a man who sees himself in this role may lose interest in you, once you're back in a good place in your life.
Scott Thompson has been writing professionally since 1990, beginning with the "Pequawket Valley News." He is the author of nine published books on topics such as history, martial arts, poetry and fantasy fiction.
Guest Information Thomas Carouso Dating with baggage–you may have some, or you may be dating someone who has some.
Kids, a crazy ex, an ugly divorce, personal issues, all qualify as stuff we bring with us when we date, and get into new relationships.
However, a man who is still pining over a lost love is never going to be emotionally available to you.
The relationship will never develop any real intimacy because his emotions are focused on someone else.
The important question is not whether he has baggage -- but what he's doing about it.